These words, spoken by Seminary Professor, came at just the right time for me. I was struggling, weary in the journey and close to ‘throwing in the towel’ of ministry as a pastor. One person had communicated that “I thought too highly of myself” – another felt I was too competitive to be in the ministry, especially since I was a “numbers” man, another felt I was arrogant – it seemed the criticism list was growing and unending. In the midst of my frustration with others, “I believe in you” brought joy. It also brought a personal conviction that I should encourage others more frequently than I had been.
The Lord directed me to His Word (one of the great devotional passages in the NT): In honor preferring one another. . . (Romans 12:10) and Rejoice with those that rejoice and weep with those that weep. . .(Romans 12:15).
I became a ‘campaign manager’ for the promotion of others. I stopped seeking positions, limited the number of positions to which I would accept from district assemblies, college boards, seminary boards even the General N.Y.P.S. Council, which I thoroughly enjoyed. It was more rewarding to see someone else elected, (though not in the beginning). After a few months of preferring others, the pattern became a lifestyle.
Some probably thought this commitment was ‘shirking from duty,’ an unwillingness or rebellious trait. If you’ve ever gone through a struggle, prayed and found peace and direction, you understand. Learning to truly ‘celebrate others’ was the spiritual discipline I needed.
John Spalding said, “Those who believe in our ability do more than stimulate us. They create for us an atmosphere in which it becomes easier to succeed.”
John Maxwell writes about helping others:
What you need to know to encourage people –
People are insecure. . . give them confidence.
People like to feel special. . . sincerely compliment them.
People are looking for a better tomorrow. . .show them hope.
People need to be understood. . .listen to them.
People lack direction. . .navigate for them.
People are selfish. . .speak to their needs first.
People get downhearted. . .encourage them.
People want to be associated with success. . .help them win.
People desire meaningful relationships. . .provide community.
People seek models to follow. . .be an example.
It is more blessed to GIVE than to RECEIVE, isn’t it?
Until next time,
Hugh L. Smith
